After spending so much time reading through online hookup site reviews, finally finding someone to talk to can be a major relief. When it comes to topics of conversation, however, most guys really don’t know what to expect, how to bring it up and what to make of her answers. In short, we tend to be a little behind in the social skills department, at least when it comes to women. That’s where a little bit of experience and some real advice can go a long way. So whether your tactics involve reading profiles or hitting the bar scene is Saskatoon, try finding out what her hobbies are first. Not only does it give her something to talk about, which will instantly get you on the good side of most women, but it gives you a chance to learn a bit about her before you make any snap judgments.
Is She Going to be Clingy?
Does she have any hobbies to speak of? We make a point of this because what someone does in their free time and actually having an interest in something are two completely different things. If you ask her about her hobbies and her answers sound more like lists of things she might do if she kind of feels like it, what she’s probably telling you is that she doesn’t have many hobbies of her own and is used to other people providing her entertainment. That’s not the same as, say, being really into certain shows, or really enjoying theater, either, so be careful to delineate between someone who actually enjoys movies and someone who’s just used to being taken to them by their last boyfriend.
That brings us to another clear sign that she’s not used to entertaining herself. If any of her answers start out with something like “the last guy I dated was really into x” get ready to run. This is a clear example of someone who is going to do whatever it is you’re doing just so she can be around you. Women whose boyfriends are their hobbies are going to be clingy, because she doesn’t have anything else to really distract her with. It may seem great at first to have someone that interested in you, but take it from our experience; you will be annoyed and it’s not going to end well.
What Does She Value about Herself?
Let’s say she does have some hobbies, though, or at least one. Great! There’s a lot we can get from not only the sorts of things she’s interested in, but how she spends her time in relation to them. For one thing, it’s going to give you an ample supply of what sorts of compliments she’s going to take well and which ones she won’t really care about. This is a particularly good way of standing out, so be sure to pay attention when she’s telling you about any of her choices, because she’s not going to come right out say what she’s looking for or why she likes it. It’s going to take some understanding of exactly what the hobby entails. That’s a good thing, though, since if you have no idea what she’s talking about, encouraging her to explain it can win you some bonus points in the meantime. No girl’s ever interested in listening to a potential date talking about himself for the entire time, after all, and keeping it mostly about her will set you apart pretty quickly.
As for the hobbies themselves, there’s a few different kinds. Collection base hobbies generally apply to people who put weight in aesthetics. This means complimenting her taste or the way she looks, especially if she’s obviously trying for a theme or gone out of her way to stand out in a crowd will go a lot farther with here. If her hobby involves doing a lot of research or reading a lot, she’s probably proud of the knowledge she has. This is especially true of someone with specific fandoms they’re involved in. Complimenting her for little known facts or sharing a few yourself will strike a better chord than saying something about how she looks or how pretty her eyes are. Along those same lines, someone who is clearly into technology or whose jobs is their hobby, is probably going to value expertise and knowledge. Sharing in that sort of curiosity or praising some aspect of something she said as insightful or intelligent is going too far with a girl like that.
What Kind of Social Life is She Interested In?
The hobbies she has and how she enjoys them can also be a strong indicator of what to expect from her in different social environment. If you’ve been digging through online hookup site reviews for someone to take clubbing and generally enjoy a busy social schedule with, someone who takes part in relatively solitary hobbies probably just isn’t interested in something like that and it just won’t work out. If you can’t enjoy sharing time together, there’s no point in being together. You’ll both just end up frustrated and bored. This isn’t a hard, fast rule, of course, but keep in mind that most women aren’t looking for someone to tell them what to be interested in and how to have fun, so chances are you won’t be causing someone introverted by nature to suddenly enjoy a busy social life that involves large gatherings.
On the other end of things, someone who likes biking in Saskatoon may be interested in hobbies in more sports related hobbies as well, and therefore open to trying one that you like. If nothing else, someone whose hobby is related to a specific sport or athletic activities in general is probably going to have a lot more energy and be up for the kind of social interaction that involves a lot of people. Moreover, they’ll probably be more independent in general. They are also more likely to have a more local group of friends to hang out with than someone whose hobbies tend to involve computers or gaming. This can be a good or a bad thing depending on what you’re looking for and the sort of relationship you want to get out of it, but it’s a good thing to know either way.
It should go without saying, but just because you’ve done your homework doesn’t mean you automatically know everything there is to know about her. Just the same as all the reviews in the world don’t mean you’ll find the right online hookup site on the first go. You have to check the rating of the site as well. Check out our tested and reviewed hookup dating sites with legit hookup site reviews to help you make a choice.
There’s no way of saying for sure that her hobbies will necessarily reflect on how she thinks and acts once she’s in a relationship with you. Remember, you are as much of a variable in this as anything else. Just as you have preferences for how to interact with people and what to spend your free time doing, so to may those preferences influence hers and vice versa. You never know what you might come to enjoy without trying it and she may only have these hobbies because it’s all she’s been exposed to. So keep the conversation going and you might be surprised!
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